In life we will have many friends that come along but we will learn that some of these "friends" are really just a foe. I have been there myself and have encountered people that I thought were true friends but in the end I figured out what they were really about.
Many of us have that personality where if we meet a cool person that we think has the same personality as us and if we instantly seem to click with them the next step would be to call that person a friend. I have had been in this situation plenty of times (mostly when young) and through experience I realized who was a friend and who wasn't. A friendship is like a relationship, everything is peachy kin at the beginning but after a while some people tend to show their true colors. For instance, I had a friend who I got along great with at the beginning, we would hang out all the time, go shopping, have movie night, etc. After a while I noticed this person become more like she either wanted what I had or didn't want me to succeed. She would talk to me about things going on in her life and I would always be positive but when I spoke to her about positive things going on in my life she always found a way to turn it into a negative. I would tell her about my aspirations, for instance getting a home someday and the first thing she would say is, "Why would you want to do that, so you could forget about us?" Ok, I let that go and one day I told her I met this new guy and I really like him, instead of supporting me when she met the guy she hit on him. I moved on from that because it wasn't a serious boyfriend but when I did start dating someone seriously she would constantly hit on him blatantly in front of me. When I began college right after her she was pissed because I had more going on in my life and couldn't hang out as much. Lastly she would go as far as to start rifts between me and mutual friends. People around us realized she didn't have the best intentions but that was something I had to figure out on my own.
After seeing the negatives outweighing the positives in our so called friendship I realized the friendly disguise may have wheeled me in at first but when the true colors started to show I noticed my so called "friend" wasn't a friend but just a foe. If you find yourself questioning many things in your friendship or you notice your friend becoming more negative then positive then you have to take a step back and figure out where your friendship stands. The above was just one example of what I have been through in the past but it helped to teach me a lesson and I tend to use the word friend very cautiously.
As I became older I realized not everyone has my best interest at heart and not everyone is my friend. My friend circle is small but made up of true, positive friends and that's all that matters.
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