Do you believe secrets in a relationship will break a relationship or does it just depend on the type of secret?
When a relationship first begins you may tell your significant other what you want to them know and not the 100% truth. This may be fine in the beginning as you don't know where the relationship is headed but as you see that you guys are getting serious, do you keep the secret(s) hidden or lay it all out on the table? Secrets can consist of little things like telling your significant other you went to one school when you really went to antoher or it can consist of bigger things like you being previously married with children. I believe everyone on this earth has skeleton's in their closet and although some of those skeletons are meant to be kept secret the others are not especially if it can effect your relationship down the line.
Sometimes the significant other can say things like, "I would prefer someone that hasn't been married before or I would prefer someone without children." Because you are really digging this person you decide to leave out the fact that you were married or that you do have children. You may shy away from telling the truth because you feel it may ruin your chances with the person. You may also decide to not say anyting for years especially if the person doesn't ask you about it. This will only make the situation worse because when the truth comes out (it always does) down the line, you will seem like you were lying even though you felt at the time you were doing what was best.
Secrets can be heavy for those holding onto it and can be a heavy burden on the relationship. When the secrets are exposed and if your bond is that strong even though some of the trust may be gone, you can push through and make it work and rebuild what you once had. On another note these secrets can tare a couple apart. You must always make a conscious decision on what you reveal in a relationship as most times it will just come back to haunt you.
So ladies, are you hiding secrets from your loved ones that you feel can make or break your relationship?
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